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Emotion processing for adults

voices of your village Sep 12, 2019

 

 

If you’ve been in our village for even a second, you know that building emotional intelligence in our tiny humans is our most important work as parents and caregivers. But have you ever wondered how you are supposed to teach them how to process their hard emotions if you’re not even sure how to process your own? Maybe you didn’t receive this skill-set growing up and wonder how, then, you can teach your kiddos. The truth is, you can’t teach what you don’t know, so a huge part of us teaching this to the tiny humans is building our own toolbox. This is so important because kiddos are going to do more of what they see than what you say. If they see...

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Q&A Series: Coping

 

 

Today we kick off our Q&A Series with April, who has been an active member in our Seed village for about two years. April lives in Amarillo, Texas with her husband and three-year-old daughter, Quinn. 

April admits that she has a hard time letting her daughter feel hard emotions for an extended period of time. She wonders when to let her have a hard feeling, how long to let her have that hard feeling, and how long to allow her daughter to engage with a coping mechanism before implementing a coping strategy. 

First, we want to pay attention to what it looks like when we are turning to coping strategies versus coping mechanisms. When we turn to a strategy, the...

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Back to school tips

voices of your village Aug 29, 2019

 

 

Sweet summer is just about a wrap, which means it’s almost back to school time. Like most transitions, the back to school transition is hard and can come with hard emotions - whether your kiddo is heading off to a brand new school or just a brand new classroom and teacher. Either way, everyone wants to nail this. Both kiddos and parents want to feel supported during this time. So, here are my back to school tips and tricks.

First, let’s take a look at preparation and some actual tools that can be used to prepare you and your kiddo to head back to school. One useful tool is visual aids, which y’all know I’m a huge proponent of. We use visual aids all...

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What a middle-schooler would like you to know about emotions, with Elijah

 

 

I’m so jazzed about this episode of Voices of Your Village because I got to sit down and chat with probably one of the most emotionally intelligent 11-year-olds you’ll ever meet, Elijah. His mom Danielle allowed us to share on Instagram and Facebook an exchange she and Elijah had in which she emotion coached him through a tough situation, and basically the response was that Danielle is serious #momgoals and Elijah is serious #11yearoldgoals. I wanted to chat with Elijah about being a soon-to-be middle school kid - what it’s like and how to navigate all of the hard stuff surrounding this unique time in life. We chatted about the difficulties of middle...

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Sharing

 

 

There are generally two schools of thought in regards to sharing, and they tend to be on opposite ends of the spectrum. One end is the belief that what’s mine is mine, and what’s yours is yours, and my kiddos don’t need to share, while the other end is the belief that everybody takes turns and everybody shares. I believe in finding a middle ground here. Over the years, I’ve worked with thousands of kiddos, and I’ve noticed some trends when it comes to sharing. 

 

Some kiddos actually really like to share and offer all on their own because it brings them joy. So, what is it about these kiddos that leads to a desire for collaborative...

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How do you process as an adult? with NY Times Best Seller, Lori Gottlieb

voices of your village Aug 01, 2019

 

 

In this episode of Voices of Your Village, I get to fangirl and hang out with Lori Gottlieb, therapist, and author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone. In this NY Times Bestselling book, the reader gets snapshots into therapy sessions with four people Lori is working with, as well as her own therapy sessions with her own therapist.  We get to chat about the question,

 

“How do you process as an adult?”

 

Lori is a psychotherapist with a very diverse background. After college and prior to becoming a therapist, she worked in film and television, attended medical school for a short time, and then worked as a journalist for many years. As a therapist,...

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Co-reg vs Self-reg with Thriving Littles

voices of your village Jul 25, 2019

 

 

Y’all know I’m a sucker for an OT, so I was super jazzed to get to chat with pediatric occupational therapist, Katie Crosby, for this episode.  She works at a private practice in Chicago full time and runs Thriving Littles on the side, a consulting service where she works deeply with kiddos and their families to explore the parent-child match and look at more of the big picture as opposed to a one-on-one therapy session with a kiddo.

Katie and I got to dive into the difference between co-regulation and self-regulation, when one is appropriate versus another, and how to move from co-regulation to self-regulation. Infants start out by co-regulating, and then...

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The biggest game changer in my emotion processing

voices of your village Jul 18, 2019

 

 

“That wasn’t my expectation.” Have you ever found yourself in a situation that caused you to say this to yourself? A four-year-old once said this to me and it was quite possibly the biggest game-changer in emotion processing for me. This is truly the root of so many of the hard stuff we feel. If we really breakdown what we’re feeling - whether it be embarrassment, anger, sadness, or disappointment - it is often because our expectations were not met. This has totally changed my emotion processing. It doesn’t mean I won’t feel these things or a situation won’t cause these emotions, but I benefit from being more self-aware of this...

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Co-parenting through separation & divorce

voices of your village Jul 11, 2019

 

 

In this episode of Voices of Your Village, I got to sit down with the two people, Fran and Daryl, who raised my favorite human, my husband Zach, and chat with them about how they navigated co-parenting through divorce and separation. These two navigated this challenge beautifully, so there was no one I’d rather sit down and talk to about this than them. If you’re a parent going through a separation or divorce or navigating co-parenting yourself, you’re not alone - this has been a highly requested topic and is super relevant for our village. 

Zach was six or seven when his parents divorced, and according to Zach, he always felt that the decisions his...

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Building a relationship of trust with kids

 

 

As parents and caregivers, one of our goals should be for our tiny humans to trust us - trust us to keep them safe and trust us to do what we say we’re going to do - and for us to trust them to hold up their end of the bargain. You may think this happens in the big moments - them coming to you with a big secret or confiding in you - but trust is actually built in the smaller moments, like keeping a promise. And it’s a two-way street - I expect the tiny humans to do what they say they’re going to do, too. There will be times when we let each other down because that’s just life - but more often than not, we need to follow through.

I want the tiny...

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