00:00:01    Alyssa

You're listening to Voices of Your Village. And in this episode, we get to talk about what it looks like in practice to raise children differently than we were raised. I got to hang out with one of my favorite people, Dr. Lynyetta Willis, to chat about this. I have brought Lynyetta into everything that I do, for the most part since I met her, because her work is so imperative for us on this journey of raising emotionally intelligent humans. She has a workshop in our Seed Certification. She's been on the podcast before. We featured her in our book Tiny Humans, Big Emotions and talking about her work. And in this episode, we really get to go down and dirty into...

00:00:00    Alyssa

You're listening to Voices of Your Village. And today we get to chat about how to mindfully raise kind, confident kids. Oh, I got to hang out with someone I adore so much. My friend Hunter Clark Fields. She is the author of Raising Good Humans a Mindful Guide to Breaking the Cycle of Reactive Parenting and Raising Kind, Confident Kids. And out now is her book Raising Good Humans Every Day. I am so obsessed with this book because it's super, super practical and you don't have to read the whole book in one. You can open it up and you're like, all right, I can take this one today. I can take this one today, just like, bit by bit. And I love that so much....

00:00:00    Alyssa

Hey there. I'm Alyssa Blask Campbell. I'm a mom with a Master's degree in Early Childhood Education and co-creator of the Collaborative Emotion Processing method. I'm here to walk alongside you through the messy, vulnerable parts of being humans, raising other humans with deep thoughts and actionable tips. Let's dive in together. 

00:02:23    Alyssa

Hello, everyone, and welcome back to Voices of Your Village. We have a returning guest. This time we get to hang out with Jessica Lahey, best selling author and speaker and podcast host. You might remember her from episode 102, which was The Gift of Failure, her incredible book on...

00:00:02    Alyssa

You're listening to Voices of Your Village, this is episode 233. I got to hang out with Dr. Ellen Vora. Oh gosh, I love hanging out with Ellen. She is incredible. She wrote a beautiful book about adult anxiety. And let me tell you y'all like we know anxiety is on the rise and we need concrete tools for what to do with it. And when I first started reading her book, The Anatomy of Anxiety, it was one of those things where immediately I was like, yes, yes. Yep, so much yes to this. As a human who once lived with a lot of anxiety and has learned a lot of tools that I get to employ in the day to day to live with less anxiety, I felt like I just felt so seen...

00:00:00    Alyssa

You're listening to Voices of Your Village. This is episode 226. I got to hang out with Kobe Campbell to dive into her first book. Why Am I Like This? How to Break Cycles, Heal from Trauma and Restore Your Faith. Y'all, this conversation, it was so fun to have and to dive into, really at the crux of doing this work, of raising emotionally intelligent humans is diving into our own work of who am I? What am I coming to the table with? What am I bringing from my childhood, and how do I build tools and awareness so that I can regulate and respond with intention? So many of us did not grow up with these tools for emotional intelligence, and we're trying to...

When your child says “I hate you!” it can really hit a nerve. You might find yourself getting defensive (“How could you say that to me? I do everything for you!”). You might feel the urge to assert control over the situation (“You’re not going to speak to me like that!”). Narratives you hold around obedience and respect may come up and you may have fears that you aren’t raising a respectful child.

Here’s the thing: a child's hurtful words often come from a place of frustration or lost control. While adults use "hate" as a permanent feeling, children use it fleetingly to express a big emotion. 

The key to connecting with your child...

00:00:04    Joel

"You know, that that a father's supposed to be and this is what I'm supposed to do. Well, then, you know, that was all based. A lot of it was fear-based for me, right?"

00:00:17    Joel

"I was fearful, I felt insecure about parenting that way sometimes, I felt like it was inadequate." 

00:00:28    Joel

"And again, they're resilient. They're more resilient than we are, sometimes." 

00:00:33    Joel

"Those are big things that just started to change the landscape for us." 

00:00:42    Joel

"Let's try to figure out what's going on here so that I can help you to build your...

00:00:03    Jamie

"It was a human guttural reaction from a black parent surrounded by non-Black families."

00:00:14    Jamie

"The things we have to think about, that being one of maybe like five Brown families in a school of probably 800 families."

00:00:25    Jamie

"And it got to the point, I'm a yeller...ugh, I'm a yeller. I said it, and I'll own it, and I'm working on it"

00:00:35    Jamie

"Because if you push too hard, it's very different than your friend pushing too hard."

00:00:43    Jamie

"While I don't always see the behavior immediately, the times that I do are just really cool." 

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00:00:35    Alyssa

You're listening to Voices of Your Village, this is episode 204. I got to hang out with author Lori Gottlieb of "Maybe You Should Talk To Someone." One of my favorite books that I read in 2019, and she shares in this episode about how to process emotions as an adult. What does this look like, to do the emotion processing work as an adult. How do we navigate that when we have kiddos around us too. This was such a fun conversation for me and I hope that you enjoy it, and also go snag her book! It is so good. In the new year we are going to be doing a free self-regulation challenge for adults. So how to regulate our...

00:00:00    Alyssa:

You're listening to Voices of Your Village, this is episode 203. In this episode I got to hang out with my friend Xavier Dagba to chat about setting boundaries with adults, as adults. Gosh this is a hot one as we come into some holiday time for folks, a lot of family time, but really it's a hot one for all the time. What does this look like? What comes up for us from our childhood, and our social programming and our patterns and habits when we set boundaries with other adults. I know that it can be super loaded and I'm jazzed to share this episode with you, Xavier is a fantastic follow on Instagram as well if you want to head over...