When your child says “I hate you!” it can really hit a nerve. You might find yourself getting defensive (“How could you say that to me? I do everything for you!”). You might feel the urge to assert control over the situation (“You’re not going to speak to me like that!”). Narratives you hold around obedience and respect may come up and you may have fears that you aren’t raising a respectful child.

Here’s the thing: a child's hurtful words often come from a place of frustration or lost control. While adults use "hate" as a permanent feeling, children use it fleetingly to express a big emotion. 

The key to connecting with your child...

00:00:04    Joel

"You know, that that a father's supposed to be and this is what I'm supposed to do. Well, then, you know, that was all based. A lot of it was fear-based for me, right?"

00:00:17    Joel

"I was fearful, I felt insecure about parenting that way sometimes, I felt like it was inadequate." 

00:00:28    Joel

"And again, they're resilient. They're more resilient than we are, sometimes." 

00:00:33    Joel

"Those are big things that just started to change the landscape for us." 

00:00:42    Joel

"Let's try to figure out what's going on here so that I can help you to build your...

00:00:03    Jamie

"It was a human guttural reaction from a black parent surrounded by non-Black families."

00:00:14    Jamie

"The things we have to think about, that being one of maybe like five Brown families in a school of probably 800 families."

00:00:25    Jamie

"And it got to the point, I'm a yeller...ugh, I'm a yeller. I said it, and I'll own it, and I'm working on it"

00:00:35    Jamie

"Because if you push too hard, it's very different than your friend pushing too hard."

00:00:43    Jamie

"While I don't always see the behavior immediately, the times that I do are just really cool." 

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00:00:35    Alyssa

You're listening to Voices of Your Village, this is episode 204. I got to hang out with author Lori Gottlieb of "Maybe You Should Talk To Someone." One of my favorite books that I read in 2019, and she shares in this episode about how to process emotions as an adult. What does this look like, to do the emotion processing work as an adult. How do we navigate that when we have kiddos around us too. This was such a fun conversation for me and I hope that you enjoy it, and also go snag her book! It is so good. In the new year we are going to be doing a free self-regulation challenge for adults. So how to regulate our...

00:00:00    Alyssa:

You're listening to Voices of Your Village, this is episode 203. In this episode I got to hang out with my friend Xavier Dagba to chat about setting boundaries with adults, as adults. Gosh this is a hot one as we come into some holiday time for folks, a lot of family time, but really it's a hot one for all the time. What does this look like? What comes up for us from our childhood, and our social programming and our patterns and habits when we set boundaries with other adults. I know that it can be super loaded and I'm jazzed to share this episode with you, Xavier is a fantastic follow on Instagram as well if you want to head over...

00:00:00    Alyssa

You're listening to Voices of Your Village, this is episode 200! That's insane 200 episodes. Wow, thank you for being on this journey with us. In this episode we're chatting about emotion processing for adults. What does it look like for us to do this work? If you want more support in doing this work, I have a re-parenting class for you, where I guide you through through how to take what you're bringing from your childhood and your social programming, and really get to know it and build awareness and self regulation so that you can live with intention. Head on over to seedandsew.org and check out our classes jump on into our re-parenting class today....

00:00:00 Alyssa

You're listening to Voices of Your Village this is episode 194. This is one of my favorite episodes that exists on our podcast. I got to interview Dr. Lynyetta Willis, who has become a dear friend since this interview. And she collaborated with us to create a workshop thats included in our S.E.E.D. Certification program. She does a lot of work around self awareness and what's coming up from our childhood and is it something that we want to repeat or heal so we don't repeat it? This episode is full of awesome tangible tools for moving forward and what this looks like to heal intergenerational trauma. 

00:47:52 Alyssa

I want to put a disclaimer in...

00:00:04    Alyssa

Welcome to Voices of Your Village, a place where parents, caregivers, teachers and experts come to support one another on this wild ride of raising tiny humans. We combined decades of experience with the latest research to create the modern parenting village. Let's dive into honest conversation about real parenting challenges, so it doesn't have to be this hard. I'm your host, Alyssa Blask Campbell.  

00:00:35    Alyssa

Hey, everyone, welcome here to Voices of Your Village today I get to hang out with Sarah Maclaughlin. She lives in Maine, and we got to meet in real life, which is how this relationship started. I gave a workshop...

 00:00:00    Alyssa

You're listening to Voices of Your Village. This is episode 175. What a joy this episode was, I got to hang out with my friend Keegan to talk about navigating respectful parenting as a dad. One thing that we have found in doing this work is that so often the folks coming to the table to have these conversations are moms and in this episode we're talking about dads and it's a pretty heteronormative conversation. I want to be really clear about that going in. We talked about the differences that Dad's face in respectful parenting in hetero relationships. I think it's really important for us to have specific conversations about certain groups of...

00:00:01    Alyssa

You're listening to Voices of Your Village. This is episode 174. We talked a lot about progress over perfection, but I feel like we are still holding ourselves to a standard of perfection. That when we make mistakes, in parenthood, or as humans, we experience hard emotions that we feel like we're failing. And I think this is something that's really important for us to discuss because it's going to be huge for the kids who are watching. And if we feel like we are failing when they have a hard emotion or a tantrum or a meltdown, what message are we sending to them? So, today we're going to dive into imperfectly parenting, this is a quick episode with me...