You’re listening to Voices of Your Village, and today’s episode is for the good kids—and the adults they became. I got to sit down with Maggie Nick, Licensed Clinical Social Worker, therapist and founder of Camp Lovable, whose new book, Good Kids: Why You Suffered in Silence and How to Break the Cycle, dives into what it really means to be a “good kid”—and how that label can come with a cost.
We explored the nervous system responses behind compliance, how shame shows up for people-pleasers, and what happens when kids feel like they can’t have needs. Maggie brings such warmth and clarity to topics like fawning, neuroception, boundaries, and the grief that can come with realizing how early w...

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Alyssa: [00:00:00] You're listening to Voices of your Village, and today we're rebroadcasting one of my all time favorite episodes. You're going to hear me fangirl real hard because I got to sit down with someone I so deeply admire, Dr. Stuart Shanker. His book Self- Reg was a game changer for me when I was teaching infants and toddlers, and honestly, it shaped so much of how I approach emotional development today. In this episode, we talk about what self-regulation really means, how it differs f...

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[00:00:00] Alyssa: You're listening to Voices of Your Village, and today I get to share a truly special conversation with someone I admire deeply. Lake Bell, you might know her as an actor, director, and creator, but in this episode, we connect as two parents navigating the beautiful, messy work of raising humans, especially kids who don't always fit the mold lake.

[00:00:23] And I dive into what it looks like to parent neurodivergent kids with curiosity and compassion. We talk about the emotion...

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[00:00:00] Alyssa: You're listening to Voices of Your Village, and today we are sharing an episode that we recorded a little while ago with Dr. Mariel Buqué about breaking cycles from our childhood. Let's get real. This can be a doozy and her book slays at teaching us how to do this. It's called Break the Cycle. It's a book that focuses on healing wounds of intergenerational trauma.

[00:00:26] We all come to adulthood with different things from our childhood that we might wanna pass on to our ki...

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[00:00:00] Alyssa: You're listening to Voices of Your Village, and in this episode, I got to hang out with my pal, Jon Fogel, to chat about helping kids navigate punishment, reward based environments, even if that's not what you have in your household. That what if they go to school and that's what they're exposed to or out into the world, how do we help them navigate that?

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You're listening to Voices of Your Village, and today I get to hang out with Dr. Anna Housley Juster. Anna brings over 25 years of experience supporting children and families as a mental health clinician, education consultant, award -winning author, and parent. Her career began as a Head Start teacher, which is pretty rad, and she later served as director of content for Sesame Street. Ever heard of it? Where she shaped educational content for the series, interactive technology, toys, and books. She's now in private practice and Anna specializes in early childhood trauma, anxiety, and behavioral challenges, blending her expertise in child development and mental health...

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You're listening to Voices of Your Village, and in this episode, Rach and I chatted all about when kids are saying like rude things to you, those hurtful phrases that really dig deep, things like, you're stupid and all that jazz, you're the worst mom in the world. We also have way more about this in our book, Big Kids, Bigger Feelings, publishing in the fall of 2025. Snag that bad boy wherever books are sold. It is going to be packed full of stuff for navigating the elementary years that like kindergarten to fifth grade range, where we know a lot of these phrases. You're like, where did my sweet little human go? And why are they saying these rude things now? We've got ...

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You're listening to Voices of Your Village. And today I got to hang out with Dr. Taylor Day to chat about masking in autism. We dove into what high masking is and how it shows up outside of the autistic community as well. Oh man, it is such a bonkers idea to me that we are still so focused on eliciting certain behaviors when we know that behavior is the communication of a need. We get to dive into all that jazz in this episode. And whether you have a child who is autistic, you're autistic, or you know somebody or not, this episode's for you because you have a nervous system.  Every human has a nervous system, and there's so much packed into this conversation that will ...

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You're listening to Voices of Your Village, and today we get to dive into codependency and what it looks like to create healthy emotional boundaries with Alyssa Zander. Alyssa is a codependency and relationship coach supporting women in stepping into their authenticity and joy through shadow work and healing codependency in the mother wound. She is the creator of Codependency Alchemy, a podcast and membership that's designed to support you in feeling seen and supported while breaking through the generational cycles that are keeping you from standing in your power. Codependency is something that all of us wade in and out of, and for some of us, it's so hard to break tha...

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You're listening to Voices of Your Village, and today I got to hang out with Dr. Colleen Reichmann. We dove into eating disorders and how to prevent them, how to talk about food and bodies so that we can work to have this healthy relationship with our bodies and with food. It is such a nuanced conversation. I deeply appreciate that for the podcast medium that we can have a little bit of the nuanced conversation here. And I want to let folks know that I believe there isn't a one size fits all in this conversation. We talk about that in here. If you're not in a space right now to tune into a conversation about food and bodies, take pause, listen to that, and know that i...