0:00:00 Alyssa

You're listening to Voices of Your Village, and today I got to hang out with my friend, Dr. Nicole LaPera. We got to chat about her new book, "How to Be the Love You Seek". We're diving into how to create secure adult relationships, and y 'all, buckle up, because it turns out it's about us. We get to chat about how our childhood impacts our current relationships, and what early childhood trauma can do, and the impact it can have on our mind and our body. And then where do we go from there? What does it look like to dive into that work and look at ourselves so that we can have secure adult relationships? I have had the privilege of connecting with Dr. Nicole for ...

00:00:00    Alyssa

You're listening to Voices of Your Village, and this is episode 259. This is a selfish episode because I really needed it. This is about how to declutter the shoulds in the holiday season. I, y 'all like one of my challenges is like, Oh, I should be doing this. I should be baking cookies with my kids. I should be doing family photos and holiday cards and getting those sent out. but all of these shoulds add up for me. And ultimately, I end up showing up as a parent I don't wanna be when it's a lot of things that really don't matter to me or that I don't super care about, but I can end up in that land of "shoulds". 

00:00:50    Alyssa

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00:00:00    Alyssa

You're listening to Voices of Your Village. And today I get to hang out with Kelly Smith. Kelly is a certified yoga teacher and she's a meditation teacher. She's the host of a podcast called Mindful in Minutes. and she's the author of the book, Mindful in Minutes, Meditation for the Modern Family. We get to dive in in this conversation about my triggers around the words mindfulness, meditation, and how they, for a long time for me, felt like things that were for somebody else and things I did not have time for or understand how people really did and how, in actuality, figuring out what they really are and what it looks like in my...

00:00:00    Alyssa

Yeah, so then you have a baby and unlike having your first baby where you're like, oh my gosh, I know nothing about this baby. Now you have a little bit more benefit to like, okay, I've been through something like this before, right? But you've maybe never been like leaking milk and really sore and finding it hard to go to the bathroom while somebody wants you to read a story or make a cake or walk them to school. 

00:01:27    Alyssa

Correct, your have fluids coming out of all holes and they're like, mama, mama, yeah, yeah, really looking forward to that. 

00:07:38    Ashley

Yeah, I think, you know, in the...

00:00:00    Alyssa

Hello, everyone. Today, I get to hang out with Ashley Brichter. She is an educator, speaker, consultant, and entrepreneur. Despite her experience with hundreds of families as a doula and birth educator, like so many, her birth did not, quote, go as planned. Better for it, she founded Birth Smarter in 2019, which provides unbiased, inclusive, and award -winning practical wisdom and guidance to the next generation of families. Ashley was born and raised in New York City, though she's relocated to Salt Lake City, Utah and is enjoying the mountains and red rocks of the West with her husband and two amazing kids. She's a certified Fair Play facilitator...

00:00:00 Alyssa

You're listening to Voices of Your Village, and today I get to hang out with Dr. Tracy Dalgleish. She and I got to dive into how to address relationship challenges. Y 'all, I don't know about you, but for me, and for us, entering into parenthood especially was this real shift in our relationship. What did it mean to prioritize us or even ourselves individually when we're trying to keep a tiny human alive, when there's someone else who always needs you, and all the things that come along with that that triggers all of it, you know? Dr. Tracy wrote the book. I Didn't Sign Up for This, and I'm obsessed with it. I think it's so good, and I'm so excited to be able to chat...

00:00:01    Alyssa

You're listening to Voices of Your Village. And today your special guest is me! I got to be on the other side of the mic for this one where Rachel Lounder, one of our Seed team members, in fact, our first ever Seed team member is interviewing me to ask me questions that you submitted about Tiny Humans, Big Emotions, my upcoming book. This was so fun to get to dive into, to give the backstory on the book, to talk about how it's different and why we wrote it. Listen, I am here to add value, not noise. And so in writing this book, I really wanted to make sure that that's what we were doing, that there wasn't something out there that we could just send people to...

00:00:00    Alyssa

You're listening to Voices of Your Village, and today's episode is one of those where I was like, gosh, I need this at my fingertips at all times, because have you ever like been in one of those scenarios where your kid says something, and all of a sudden you're like, oh, yikes, how am I supposed to respond to this? Right, like, oh, we're in public, and they just said this thing that now I'm feeling really embarrassed, or I just truly had no roadmap, or how are we already here for this tough conversation? I love that we have a resource to turn to for this. Dr. Robyn Silverman wrote How to Talk to Kids About Anything, and it's full of scripts and guidance for...