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Respectful Parenting IRL: Rewriting Patterns and Habits

 

00:00:04    Joel

"You know, that that a father's supposed to be and this is what I'm supposed to do. Well, then, you know, that was all based. A lot of it was fear-based for me, right?"

 

00:00:17    Joel

"I was fearful, I felt insecure about parenting that way sometimes, I felt like it was inadequate." 

 

00:00:28    Joel

"And again, they're resilient. They're more resilient than we are, sometimes." 

 

00:00:33    Joel

"Those are big things that just started to change the landscape for us." 

 

00:00:42    Joel

"Let's try to figure out what's going on here so that I can help you to build your...

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Respectful Parenting IRL: Changing Your Perspective

 

00:00:04    Destini

"Literally our only job to keep them off the bench. The only thing we have to do, the only requirement is practice. That's it."

 

00:00:14    Destini

"Even though I am very intentional about, not projecting that. It still comes up." 

 

00:00:25    Destini

"Something's up and we're going to have to, we would be better trying to work that out in practice, then trying to do it right now." 

 

00:00:35    Destini

"Slowly going down that emotional ladder with her. She was slowly coming down. But in my mind, I was like, I'm tired as hell." 

 

00:00:44    Destini

"We want to be...

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Respectful Parenting IRL: Parenting a Child with Down Syndrome



00:00:03    Nao

"You know, it's a parent's natural instinct to want to talk to them. Like, what's wrong, what's wrong talk to us?" 

 

00:00:14    Nao

"I think it's important for me to remember to have that same expectation of communication for myself towards the kids too." 

 

00:00:25    Nao

"You know, the internet and social media. There's just so much information.  coming in." 

 

00:00:34    Nao

"We want to teach her that she can't just physically express her frustration."

 

00:00:42    Nao

"That translates to love for others as s well  her confidence in herself and her love for herself."

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Respectful Parenting IRL: Parenting with Disabilities

 

00:00:04    Jessica

"Like as soon as our adrenaline is activated or cortisol spikes. It's really hard to be a respectful parent." 

 

00:00:16    Jessica

"And I think I've been because I have to spend so much time resting. I've like been training for this my whole life." 

 

00:00:26    Jessica

"Verbal redirection is not all that effective when they're flooded." 

 

00:00:33    Jessica

"And his sensory needs became more than just touching me. Then it became much harder." 

 

00:00:42    Jessica

"And I guess it's giving myself enough compassion to believe that that is louder deep in him than the...

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Respectful Parenting IRL: Enjoying the Journey

00:00:04    Marcela

"Where did it come from? Do they come from the expectations that my parents had about me?"

 

00:00:15    Marcela

"That mistakes are not a reflection of my character. "

 

00:00:27    Marcela

"They're not giving us a hard time. They're having a hard time themselves." 

 

00:00:36    Marcela

"So, mom guilt is always there. But what do you do with that mom guilt?" 

 

00:00:43    Marcela

"And that's the fruit of the work. I've been doing with him for the last five years. "

 

00:00:55    Alyssa

Hey there. I'm Alyssa Blask Campbell. I'm a mom with a Master's degree in Early...

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Respectful Parenting IRL: Managing Your Energy Throughout the Day

00:00:02    Trystan

"They are going to feel, even if they don't know consciously, they're going to feel you're not at peace with this and ready to say sorry for it."

 

00:00:14    Trystan

"I've done all the things, it doesn't matter, he doesn't care about my respectful parenting. He's going to have a meltdown no matter what." 

 

00:00:25    Trystan

"Okay, and my energy's where, you know, I'm winding down. I got five more minutes left in me. And then I'm going to go have some me time."

 

00:00:35    Trystan

"I'm just supposed to like, keep getting up every day, keep taking my kids to school." 

 

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Respectful Parenting IRL: Raising Black Boys

00:00:03    Jamie

"It was a human guttural reaction from a black parent surrounded by non-Black families."

 

00:00:14    Jamie

"The things we have to think about, that being one of maybe like five Brown families in a school of probably 800 families."

 

00:00:25    Jamie

"And it got to the point, I'm a yeller...ugh, I'm a yeller. I said it, and I'll own it, and I'm working on it"

 

00:00:35    Jamie

"Because if you push too hard, it's very different than your friend pushing too hard."

 

00:00:43    Jamie

"While I don't always see the behavior immediately, the times that I do are just really cool." 

 

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Respectful Parenting IRL: Allowing Imperfection

voices of your village Mar 24, 2022

 

00:00:02    Arna

"It's important to have the end game in mind like, why am I doing what I'm doing? And that's I'm looking to raise adults."

 

00:00:14    Arna

"Like they're young. And these behaviors won't translate into adulthood."

 

00:00:21    Arna

"It's not just my kids like it's all my relationships. So it's my marriage, my friendships." 

 

00:00:29    Arna

"It's a pretty phenomenal movement, and the future is emotionally intelligent, and I see it manifesting." 

 

00:00:38    Arna

"It sucks that I'm in my 30s, and just now learning this. I'm glad I'm learning it at 30 and not at 50 or 60 or 80."

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Coping mechanisms vs. coping strategies

 

00:00:01    Alyssa

You're listening to Voices of Your Village. This is episode 205. In this episode, we're diving into coping tools. We're looking at coping mechanisms versus coping strategies. I'll go into what the difference between these two are, and how we can support kiddos in building coping strategies. So they don't just have a toolbox full of mechanisms to numb their emotions. And instead it can work toward processing their emotions and regulating their nervous system. This is one of the most crucial steps in emotion processing. It's knowing how to regulate our nervous system. Stay tuned because next week we are opening up our free one week self-regulation...

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How do you process as an adult? with NY Times Best Seller, Lori Gottlieb

 

00:00:35    Alyssa

You're listening to Voices of Your Village, this is episode 204. I got to hang out with author Lori Gottlieb of "Maybe You Should Talk To Someone." One of my favorite books that I read in 2019, and she shares in this episode about how to process emotions as an adult. What does this look like, to do the emotion processing work as an adult. How do we navigate that when we have kiddos around us too. This was such a fun conversation for me and I hope that you enjoy it, and also go snag her book! It is so good. In the new year we are going to be doing a free self-regulation challenge for adults. So how to regulate our...

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